Comments for Femina http://femina.reformedblogs.com Fri, 16 May 2008 15:19:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=wordpress-mu-1.2.5 Comment on An Immodest Standard by Valerie (Kyriosity) http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61113 Valerie (Kyriosity) Fri, 16 May 2008 13:06:26 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61113 I'm not sure our reformed subculture genuinely believes this. We give lip service to it, of course, but there's a double standard. A fat reformed man reminds us of Chesterton or Spurgeon -- joyfully living the good life. A fat reformed woman is just another unattractive fat woman. I think I just have to decide to accept that as a not necessarily bad reality -- another difference between the sexes that is to be celebrated rather than resented. I’m not sure our reformed subculture genuinely believes this. We give lip service to it, of course, but there’s a double standard. A fat reformed man reminds us of Chesterton or Spurgeon — joyfully living the good life. A fat reformed woman is just another unattractive fat woman. I think I just have to decide to accept that as a not necessarily bad reality — another difference between the sexes that is to be celebrated rather than resented.

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Franci http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61033 Franci Thu, 15 May 2008 22:00:57 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61033 Thank you, Nancy. The problem is, of course, not that we don't *know* this stuff - it's believing it and applying it that's the hard bit. :-) Thank you, Nancy. The problem is, of course, not that we don’t *know* this stuff - it’s believing it and applying it that’s the hard bit. :-)

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Lori http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61032 Lori Thu, 15 May 2008 21:33:56 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61032 Thanks! Thanks!

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Megan Okimoto http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61031 Megan Okimoto Thu, 15 May 2008 20:46:43 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61031 I'm going to go ahead and be a tentative voice of dissent. When you take the world as a whole it's pretty obvious that our country is getting thicker and thicker around the middle. We seem to be a pretty self-indulgent bunch, whether we're dieting or gorging ourselves. My personal struggle tends a bit to the gorging end of the spectrum. I love food. :^) I don't think I should sweat it, or worry over it the way I sometimes allow myself to, but I know when I'm making excuses (or eating a treat because I have had a hard day and food makes me feel better), then I end up in a ridiculous cycle of kicking myself for eating more than I know I should, and then going for it again anyway. What an epic waste of time--if my mind weren't so food-centered, it would make life a lot easier. Also, there's someone who I am glad gets to see me in rather less than even what they put on the cover of Vogue, and as much as I believe he is content, I'd like to make sure I do my part to keep it that way, without trying to mimic the half-starved models, of course... I’m going to go ahead and be a tentative voice of dissent. When you take the world as a whole it’s pretty obvious that our country is getting thicker and thicker around the middle. We seem to be a pretty self-indulgent bunch, whether we’re dieting or gorging ourselves. My personal struggle tends a bit to the gorging end of the spectrum. I love food. :^) I don’t think I should sweat it, or worry over it the way I sometimes allow myself to, but I know when I’m making excuses (or eating a treat because I have had a hard day and food makes me feel better), then I end up in a ridiculous cycle of kicking myself for eating more than I know I should, and then going for it again anyway. What an epic waste of time–if my mind weren’t so food-centered, it would make life a lot easier.

Also, there’s someone who I am glad gets to see me in rather less than even what they put on the cover of Vogue, and as much as I believe he is content, I’d like to make sure I do my part to keep it that way, without trying to mimic the half-starved models, of course…

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Jenny http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61030 Jenny Thu, 15 May 2008 20:17:18 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61030 Thanks so much for saying this. It helps me believe my husband when he says he isn't worried about having my 20 year old babyless body back and that he thinks I look most beautiful when I am modestly covered. Thank you for a very liberating post! Thanks so much for saying this. It helps me believe my husband when he says he isn’t worried about having my 20 year old babyless body back and that he thinks I look most beautiful when I am modestly covered. Thank you for a very liberating post!

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Julie Beth http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61021 Julie Beth Thu, 15 May 2008 13:02:45 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-61021 Thanks for these wise words! This is something I've struggled with for 10 years - trying to hang onto my 20 year old body while having a baby every 18-24 mo. It's encouraging to hear a biblical, realistic standard extolled, instead of the worldly one that is so prevalent - even in the church! Thanks for these wise words! This is something I’ve struggled with for 10 years - trying to hang onto my 20 year old body while having a baby every 18-24 mo. It’s encouraging to hear a biblical, realistic standard extolled, instead of the worldly one that is so prevalent - even in the church!

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Andrea http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60989 Andrea Thu, 15 May 2008 11:06:56 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60989 Thank you, Nancy Ann...this is just what I need to read right now. Thank you, Nancy Ann…this is just what I need to read right now.

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Mindi http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60944 Mindi Thu, 15 May 2008 06:30:36 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60944 Do you ever feel like the Lone Voice of Truth in American Church Fantasy Land? Make me the fourth "Amen." Do you ever feel like the Lone Voice of Truth in American Church Fantasy Land?

Make me the fourth “Amen.”

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Mrs. MK http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60835 Mrs. MK Thu, 15 May 2008 00:49:48 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60835 YES! YES!

]]> Comment on An Immodest Standard by Sarah http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60834 Sarah Thu, 15 May 2008 00:42:13 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2008/05/14/an-immodest-standard/#comment-60834 Well said, and an encouraging word to those who, like me, literally don't fit into this culture's standard of beauty. Well said, and an encouraging word to those who, like me, literally don’t fit into this culture’s standard of beauty.

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