By: Valerie (Kyriosity)

Valerie (Kyriosity) — Thu, 08 May 2008 20:45:50 +0000

I’ve never been in a courtship, but this reminds me of mistakes I’ve made in joining churches. I knew I had significant problems with my last church before I joined it, but I’d been visiting for a while and ended up joining out of a sense of guilt — I didn’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings! That was foolish, of course. I’d have done much better to have kept looking for a better place rather than having to go through the rather painful process of leaving four years later. My current church membership worked out much more like a good courtship. I was actually planning on moving out of state, and was just sojourning for a while, but this wonderful congregation won over my heart and changed my agenda! Not an exact correlation, of course, but it points to a common feminine foible of making decisions out of pity and false guilt rather than wisdom and clear-headed concern for the best interests of both parties: “He’s been so nice and attentive…I guess I have to marry him (despite X, Y and Z nagging doubts and concerns).”

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 08 May 2008 19:45:03 +0000

Thank you so much, I found this very helpful, and dare I say, comforting?

By: Emily

Emily — Wed, 07 May 2008 12:44:13 +0000

Thanks, that’s *very* comforting.

By: Blue Castle

Blue Castle — Wed, 07 May 2008 02:17:24 +0000

Very well put, and thought provoking. Thank you.

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