Comments on: Speaking Martian

By: amylake

amylake — Sun, 04 Nov 2007 21:42:08 +0000

“Men are from Mars”, recommended to me at my church bridal shower, is on my library shelf next to my Wilson Collection. :o)

Another I think you would get a hearty chuckle from is Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s book “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.” The gist is that proper care of husbands is actually quite simple: Husbands need respect, good food, and good lovin’. I enjoyed reading it and my husband is glad I did, too. ;o)

By: Valerie (Kyriosity)

Valerie (Kyriosity) — Sat, 03 Nov 2007 14:09:23 +0000

I’m even worse than the average woman: I can’t talk about stuff; I have to write. So my communications idiosyncrasies are a nuisance even for other women.

Ellen, I’m torn between sympathy for you and amusement that you had any hope of a more detailed response to that particular question!

By: Ellen

Ellen — Sat, 03 Nov 2007 04:36:08 +0000

I don’t get out much (poor health) and like to get all the ‘details’ from my all-male family. Yeh… When my son got back from a close friend’s wedding, I asked “What was her dress like?”
“White.”

By: Natalie Short

Natalie Short — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 17:43:56 +0000

I’m so like this. Allen tries, but sometimes I don’t give the fellow much to work with! Fortunately snuggles don’t require words to communicate

By: Luma Simms

Luma Simms — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 05:57:36 +0000

And some Martians are physicists. And we all know how talkative a physicist is.

By: Jessica C.

Jessica C. — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 18:26:05 +0000

I, like others, thought that this would be the last book that I would see reviewed you, Mrs. Wilson! I had to laugh a little as this book was required for a class that I took in college (Jan 2001). Actually, it was the whole text for the class! Granted, it was an interterm class but I think it was called “He Said, She Said: The Miscommunication of the Sexes”– or something quite creative like that. It was an interesting book and I was quite single at the time. I remember the assignments being fun as we journaled different situations presented by the book and our professor. I think some of it, at some level, has stuck with me as I learn to communicate with my husband now (we have been married just over a year). There are some good things there, and like you said, there are things that one must just dismiss. I appreciate that you have shared this book through the lens of wisdom. I appreciate you, Mrs. Wilson.

By: Angie

Angie — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 14:18:11 +0000

Here’s an amusing quote from humorist Gene Weingarten on the idea that men are “digital” and women “analog”…

“Metaphorically, if you ask a man the time, he will answer 5:13:06 and go back to reading the sports section. If you ask a woman the time, she will say, “It’s almost a quarter after 5, give or take a little. I suppose you’re asking because you’re wondering why I haven’t started dinner, but you don’t want to ask that outright because you’re concerned that it will look like you are taking me for granted, which you are, but I have to admit you make up for in other ways, so … why can’t you take your head out of the paper while we are having a significant conversation about our relationship?”

By: Katherine

Katherine — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 11:13:18 +0000

No wonder I have such a hard time when I try to think BEFORE talking! ha!

By: bean

bean — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 05:23:08 +0000

Well, I didn’t ever think I’d be reading a book review on Mars / Venus from Nancy Wilson.

However, now I’m interested!

Thanks for continuing to help us understand our Martians better - it has helped me so much in the fight to learn respect.

By: Mindy

Mindy — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 04:19:14 +0000

No wonder I’m feeling a bit bonkers! My husband has been on travel for two weeks, and conversations have not been long enough for my complete daily report of the events.

Consider, though, that not all Martians are alike. Some Martians are engineers and have an even lesser need to use words than verbal, artsy type Venus natives! These Martians go for the bottom line, not usually the analysis. In a similar vein, I do believe that it was Jim Dobson who remarked that men need to use only 20,000 words a day, whereas women need to use 50,000. If a man has been at work all day, he’s used up his quota. If his wife has been at home all day, she’s saved hers up, just waiting for him to come home so that she can use them with him!

Years ago my husband and I read Mars/Venus aloud to each other and just laughed and laughed together. We found it helpful in getting a dialog rolling which furthered our understanding of one another. Thanks for sharing your observations from this book.