Comments on: Don’t Chase Your Kids Away With a Stick http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/ Sat, 22 Nov 2008 04:08:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=wordpress-mu-1.2.5 By: kansas http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-23926 kansas Sun, 11 Nov 2007 01:32:30 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-23926 Question: I have recently had the misfortune of offending and hurting my non believing mother-in-law. I wrote her a letter apologizing and explaining the unintentional and sinful intentional aspects that offended her, my husband was very pleased with the letter and so was I. I got a reply that was not welcoming to making amends. We are going home for Thanksgiving and will be staying with her four days and three nights. What biblical advise or actions would you encourage me to have during this time and more importantly in a week? Any books I could look at? Question:

I have recently had the misfortune of offending and hurting my non believing mother-in-law. I wrote her a letter apologizing and explaining the unintentional and sinful intentional aspects that offended her, my husband was very pleased with the letter and so was I. I got a reply that was not welcoming to making amends. We are going home for Thanksgiving and will be staying with her four days and three nights.
What biblical advise or actions would you encourage me to have during this time and more importantly in a week? Any books I could look at?

]]> By: Cindy http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-12628 Cindy Tue, 09 Oct 2007 21:32:50 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-12628 The Lord is good! Thank you for this post. I've been praying for wisdom about family relationships. In the last year and a quarter I've gained two dear daughters-in-law. We live outside the US, where our kids are, so visiting is neither easy nor frequent. I don't struggle so much with trying to capture their time and attention at holiday times, as I do with mourning the loss of our daily family life. I miss my kids! We raised our boys to leave and cleave - I'm very blessed by the godly extension of our family by daughters coming into it. I've noticed my daughters-in-law have frequent contact with their mothers. Our sons are good communicators, but they are sons and so don't really think to provide the details moms love to hear about. I don't keep asking questions for info as I did before they married. I offer this perspective to daughters-in-law. Be kind and generous to your mother-in-law in sharing scenes of your family life, especially if you live far away. The Lord is good! Thank you for this post. I’ve been praying for wisdom about family relationships. In the last year and a quarter I’ve gained two dear daughters-in-law. We live outside the US, where our kids are, so visiting is neither easy nor frequent. I don’t struggle so much with trying to capture their time and attention at holiday times, as I do with mourning the loss of our daily family life. I miss my kids!

We raised our boys to leave and cleave - I’m very blessed by the godly extension of our family by daughters coming into it. I’ve noticed my daughters-in-law have frequent contact with their mothers. Our sons are good communicators, but they are sons and so don’t really think to provide the details moms love to hear about. I don’t keep asking questions for info as I did before they married.

I offer this perspective to daughters-in-law. Be kind and generous to your mother-in-law in sharing scenes of your family life, especially if you live far away.

]]> By: Natalie Short http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-12112 Natalie Short Mon, 08 Oct 2007 17:27:27 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-12112 This really describes my own mother-in-law so well. She's such a wonderful, wise woman, and she's blessed me so much during the time I've known Allen. This really describes my own mother-in-law so well. She’s such a wonderful, wise woman, and she’s blessed me so much during the time I’ve known Allen.

]]> By: Brenda@Coffee Tea Books and Me http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-11736 Brenda@Coffee Tea Books and Me Sun, 07 Oct 2007 19:24:08 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/06/dont-chase-your-kids-away-with-a-stick/#comment-11736 I love having a variety of "bloggers" writing now. :) When my daughter was only three weeks old, we HAD to go to my in-laws for Christmas. We ended up getting caught in near blizzard conditions most of the way back home. I decided then it wasn't worth the travel. So... we gave the in-laws Thanksgiving and Easter and my own mom (who was much better about such things) knew we would visit when we could. This kept up for about twenty years with bad feelings every Christmas, even though the weather could be very bad at that time. When my daughter married and moved to another part of the country, I remembered what I had gone through and told her before the wedding that they did not have to appear at each Holiday table. We just have fun together when my daughter, son-in-law, and four grandchildren (age five and under) arrive at the door, anytime. I never want to burden my children with the burden I carried. I love having a variety of “bloggers” writing now. :)
When my daughter was only three weeks old, we HAD to go to my in-laws for Christmas. We ended up getting caught in near blizzard conditions most of the way back home. I decided then it wasn’t worth the travel.

So… we gave the in-laws Thanksgiving and Easter and my own mom (who was much better about such things) knew we would visit when we could. This kept up for about twenty years with bad feelings every Christmas, even though the weather could be very bad at that time.

When my daughter married and moved to another part of the country, I remembered what I had gone through and told her before the wedding that they did not have to appear at each Holiday table. We just have fun together when my daughter, son-in-law, and four grandchildren (age five and under) arrive at the door, anytime. I never want to burden my children with the burden I carried.

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