Comments on: A Little More on Self-control

By: Garstabugg

Garstabugg — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 12:17:10 +0000

Unfortunately, I can totally relate to Ms. Luma a few posts above. I too struggle so much with flying high, being energetic and then crashing. I too have my husband often question me with the “What’s wrong hunny? Are you mad or something?” When I’m trying desperately to be quiet, calm, and practice having a meek spirit. I really needed to hear this post, and am printing it off and keeping it in my purse with me. Thank you Nancy!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 28 Oct 2007 00:38:24 +0000

Thank you for this! It clarified some things for me & made me realize that I analyze things far too often! Thank you for the encouragement & reminders.

By: Alison

Alison — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 20:53:37 +0000

This is so very, very refreshing to my soul. Could you please come live with me??? (j/k)

Thank you for taking time to write. I think each time I read your blogs I need to stop myself from lamenting the fact that I didn’t learn these things when I was younger, and get to learning and practicing them this very day!

By: Valerie (Kyriosity)

Valerie (Kyriosity) — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 03:04:58 +0000

I haven’t finished mulling enough to write a substantive reply, but I wanted to say thanks so much for writing the post!

By: Natalie Short

Natalie Short — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 17:32:52 +0000

Luma: not to hikack Mrs. Wilson’s thread, I’ve found for myself that sometimes making sure I have the right nutrition (B vits, sunshine, nerve food, whatever) helps even out the highs and the lows. Not a replacement for self-control, but it can make things a lot easier. (needless to say I’ve sort of been there).

Thanks Mrs. Wilson. I needed to hear this!

By: Olivia

Olivia — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 17:26:22 +0000

Mrs. Wilson,
Thank you for your words of Biblical wisdom. I do find myself confessing sins that I either made up or come from a worldly mindset instead of the actual sins that are far worse and need to be confronted. And I always need reminding on how important guarding of my lips is and the impact on others around me. Thank you for following God’s command to teach younger women in the church, as I know many of us are convicted and yet comforted by your writings.

By: Luma Simms

Luma Simms — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 16:54:34 +0000

Nancy… this is a difficult thing for a woman who tends to be on the “hyper” side. Whenever I have lamented about my “hyperness” I have had many people tell me to be glad of the way God made me. Now of course there is some truth to that, however, we can also sin in the way God has made us.

The same “hyperness” that allows me to wake up early, get things done for my family, be a mover and a shaker, also tends to send me sky high and then crash big time. Whether you want to call it being energetic, hyper, spastic, etc. etc. there are downsides to this situation. The biggest being a lack of self-control. I have struggled with this my entire life (37 years). It does not help to be raised by a mother with zero self-control either.

Anyway, all this to say that this is a real problem for some women out there. Especially in this day and age when we are told to be “real” to let our feelings show and other such nonsense. This is the opposite of temperance. Now, on the other hand I have known some very reserved people. I can’t tell if anything moves them at all. There is such a lack of emotion there that I feel like I’m just annoying them. I can’t tell if I just expect people to be more emotional and I’m confounded by their temperance or if they are on the opposite extreme-coldness.

I also wanted to say that whenever I have tried really hard to be self-controlled and temperate people ask me if there is something wrong, or if I’m down or other such thing. There is almost an expectancy that if I’m not bouncing off the walls that must mean I’m depressed, which makes me so mad because I’m trying so hard to be even-keeled. I keep hoping the meek and quiet spirit will help with the self-control. Now if only I can make some progress there.

Thank you for saying all these things… and by all means if you think of other practical ways to help with this situation do write more.

By: David McCrory

David McCrory — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 13:43:10 +0000

Good post Mrs. Wilson. Self-control could be considered a subset of self-discipline. Learning to discipline your body and spirit will help enable you to control your thoughts and actions.

Keep up the great posts!

By: Debby

Debby — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 02:46:01 +0000

Excellent post!