Comments on: Fussing http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/ Thu, 08 Jan 2009 03:48:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=wordpress-mu-1.2.5 By: Katie Newman http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-104 Katie Newman Tue, 01 May 2007 19:38:36 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-104 Nancy, this is a great reminder. my heart is naturally inclined this way, and i thank God for using my marriage and husband to purify those things in me. My husband is in seminary and we are both working (no kids yet), but things are busy and i need these reminders to keep serving him and helping him to the best i am able to. My husband has taught me that God uses us and others in our lives to be His grace in our lives at times. Thank you! Nancy,
this is a great reminder. my heart is naturally inclined this way, and i thank God for using my marriage and husband to purify those things in me. My husband is in seminary and we are both working (no kids yet), but things are busy and i need these reminders to keep serving him and helping him to the best i am able to. My husband has taught me that God uses us and others in our lives to be His grace in our lives at times. Thank you!

]]> By: Valerie (Kyriosity) http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-59 Valerie (Kyriosity) Thu, 19 Apr 2007 14:29:28 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-59 Tara, for the self-talk, the "I'm so stupid" stuff, do you have them counteract that with positive things about themselves, or just postive things in general -- praise of others or of God? Tara, for the self-talk, the “I’m so stupid” stuff, do you have them counteract that with positive things about themselves, or just postive things in general — praise of others or of God?

]]> By: Tara http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-54 Tara Wed, 18 Apr 2007 17:34:46 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-54 Abra, To help my kids learn how important their words are to themselves and others I employed this task a year ago. I heard my children saying negative things outloud to themselves. My oldest son would say "I am so stupid why do I do that". So I told them everytime they said something negative either to themselves or someone else they were going to have to say two positive things to replace the one negative. This was to show God that we are thankful for how He has made us and Others. It worked and the negativity stopped. However just the other day someone in our home said something that was not encouraging and my daughter who is 8 told them now you have to say two praises to God for that! ha ha ha Abra,
To help my kids learn how important their words are to themselves and others I employed this task a year ago. I heard my children saying negative things outloud to themselves. My oldest son would say “I am so stupid why do I do that”. So I told them everytime they said something negative either to themselves or someone else they were going to have to say two positive things to replace the one negative. This was to show God that we are thankful for how He has made us and Others. It worked and the negativity stopped. However just the other day someone in our home said something that was not encouraging and my daughter who is 8 told them now you have to say two praises to God for that! ha ha ha

]]> By: Elizabeth at A Biblical Home http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-51 Elizabeth at A Biblical Home Wed, 18 Apr 2007 01:25:23 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-51 I will also be applying Abra's idea. The idea of turning negative thoughts into positive words is brilliant. I'm sure my husband will appreciate it! I will also be applying Abra’s idea. The idea of turning negative thoughts into positive words is brilliant. I’m sure my husband will appreciate it!

]]> By: Valerie (Kyriosity) http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-50 Valerie (Kyriosity) Tue, 17 Apr 2007 22:23:23 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-50 Abra, I <i>love</i> that idea. No husband or kids to try it on, but my mom's in town and I need <i>something</i> to help me behave myself! Abra, I love that idea. No husband or kids to try it on, but my mom’s in town and I need something to help me behave myself!

]]> By: Abra Carnahan http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-48 Abra Carnahan Tue, 17 Apr 2007 18:40:41 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-48 Since you've helped me before, you know I'm a worrier (or maybe just plain paranoid). Recently a dear friend was telling me that every time a complaint passed through her head, she would vocalize a praise to her husband or children. I've been trying to apply that discipline to my worries. It is making me painfully aware of how often I indulge my silliness. Since you’ve helped me before, you know I’m a worrier (or maybe just plain paranoid). Recently a dear friend was telling me that every time a complaint passed through her head, she would vocalize a praise to her husband or children.
I’ve been trying to apply that discipline to my worries. It is making me painfully aware of how often I indulge my silliness.

]]> By: Kerry http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-47 Kerry Tue, 17 Apr 2007 16:03:42 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/04/16/fussing/#comment-47 Thanks for your post. I have been thinking, dealing, and praying about this issue in my own life. I have been married a year and a half and we have a wonderful seven month old baby boy. It is very easy to fall into the thinking that our culture pushes at us and to give into our sinful attitudes (not being appreciated, doing everything on our own, and not being romanced as we once were...). But I am constantly reminded that I need to have that sacrificial love. It is not easy! To put others first and to have the heart of a servant are complete acts of God's grace working in our lives. I know that I cannot do those things in my own strength, but must depend on my Heavenly Father to give me that quiet and gentle spirit that is pleasing to Him. Marriage is more that just the everyday trivial things that we want to think and worry about. It is the single most important relationship we will ever have because it is a beautiful picture of Christ and the church. Keep helping us to focus on the truth with your words of wisdom. Thanks for your post. I have been thinking, dealing, and praying about this issue in my own life. I have been married a year and a half and we have a wonderful seven month old baby boy. It is very easy to fall into the thinking that our culture pushes at us and to give into our sinful attitudes (not being appreciated, doing everything on our own, and not being romanced as we once were…). But I am constantly reminded that I need to have that sacrificial love. It is not easy! To put others first and to have the heart of a servant are complete acts of God’s grace working in our lives. I know that I cannot do those things in my own strength, but must depend on my Heavenly Father to give me that quiet and gentle spirit that is pleasing to Him.

Marriage is more that just the everyday trivial things that we want to think and worry about. It is the single most important relationship we will ever have because it is a beautiful picture of Christ and the church.

Keep helping us to focus on the truth with your words of wisdom.

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